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What helps keep your inspiration tank filled as a creative? Join us on the Wellness Crossing Podcast as Emelda and I talk about what it looks like to foster wellness of the creative soul. Click to listen!

Fostering Wellness for the Creative Soul

Have you ever sat down to work on something creative and found yourself lacking a single ounce of inspiration?

*raising my hand*

Just me? I doubt it. ūüėČ

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat down at the computer, ready to write for an hour, only to stare at a blank screen with that dang blinking cursor. “Why don’t I feel creative?”

Sometimes the reason is that I feel stressed. And then other times I feel depleted. Like I just can’t find the right words to breathe onto the screen.

So how then do we refill our creativity tank? And how can we create from a space of calm rather than a place of “I just need to get this done?”

Enter: wellness for creative people.

Well today, Emelda De Coteau, is talking allllll about the importance of wellness for creative people on The Wellness Crossing. She’s a beautiful and passionate creative woman who’s navigated more than her fair share of pain and heartache. Yet, through it all, this beauty continues to infuse light and encouragement in her communities.

Today she’s bringing her best tips and encouragement for all of us creatives. And I couldn’t be more thrilled to share this episode with you all! One of my favorite parts of our chat is what E has to say about finding ways to fill our soul so we can create from a place of purpose.

In the beautiful community she’s founded, Women Creatives Chat, women of all creative endeavors are encouraged to gather and connect. And I have loved meeting other women who are fulfilling their own calling creatively! I’ve learned SO much from those who show up for each chat.

So be sure to get plugged into this amazing group on Insta! I think you’ll find it to be an amazing creative outlet for being refreshed and finding like-hearted women.

Listen to today’s episode…

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Connect with E…

Emelda is a loving wife, mama, creative, and believer seeking God anew in each moment.  She serves as the founder of Women Creatives Chat, a community dedicated to empowering all creative women through events (launching in the fall of 2017), workshops and daily inspiration on Instagram and Facebook.

She’s also a founding member of Black Womyn Rising, a radical intergenerational organizing collective for Black womyn and girls rooted in global sistahood. She blogs at Live In Color, ¬†about faith, activism and inspiration, is a columnist for Beautifully Said magazine, and contributing writer for the Pretty Entrepreneur blog (a community which empowers women of color in business).

Emelda De Coteau of Women Creatives Chat is one of the most inspiring women I know. Her passion for creating and inspiring others to tap into their own creative talent is absolutely beautiful. Tune in to hear how Emelda prioritizes self care to keep her creative tank full. Just click here to listen! http://www.livinggraceblog.com/podcast

Photo by Keston De Coteau
(Her shirt shown is designed by the brand / community for women of color who are in biz, Pretty Entrepreneur)

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Think you don't have time for self-care? Listen in as Jen Wille shares why she thinks we ALL have the time and how to create your own self-care practice that works for YOU. Click to tune in!

How to Cultivate Self-Love & Prioritize Self-Care

When you think of self-care, what things come to mind?

Is it taking a bubble bath? Getting a massage? Or having that elusive spa day?

Or perhaps it’s a yearly trip you look forward to. Maybe you find that the same bit of beach you visit each year gives your inner battery a recharge.

And what about self-love? How do you feel about you?

Do you look in the mirror and critique every line, freckle, and curve? Are you happy with the person you are today? Do you feel you’re worth the effort of learning to love yourself better?

Today on the podcast I’m chatting with Jen Wille, a Life Coach dedicated to helping women deepen their self-love and develop their self-care practice. She’s unpacking her story of growing up in foster care, recovering from an eating disorder, and how she found herself leaving one career to pursue her passion for helping others in a more intimate way.

You won’t want to miss her practical tips for developing your own self-care practice, even if you don’t think you have the time! Jen believes we ALL can find a self-care routine that works for us and refills our tank daily.

So sit back and tune in to this heart-to-heart with Jen. And I’ll warn you: her down-to-earth, inviting presence will probably make you feel like you wish you were having coffee with her. So you might as well go ahead and pour yourself a cup before getting comfy and joining us below. ūüėČ

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Connect with Jen…

Jen Wille is a Certified Professional Life Coach, educator, and speaker based in Chicago. She helps women take care of themselves so they can take care of business while helping them create intentional, peaceful daily rhythms for their lives. She has been featured in publications like Blog Society, Create & Cultivate, and Inspired Coach Magazine. To connect with Jen, learn more about her, or grab her FREE Daily Routine Workbook, you can check her out at jenwille.com/home.

Find Jen on¬†Instagram¬†and grab your own copy of Jen’s Daily Routine Workbook!

 

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I don't think I used to ever give a second thought to how I responded to fear. Sometimes I was strong and pushed through despite the thick cloud fear brought. But others, I would curl up, completely crippled by the weight of the fear. Today I'm talking about 3 ways I've been changing my relationship with fear. Because I believe you can, too! Click to listen in...

3 Ways I’m Changing My Relationship with Fear

When I was about four years old I was playing in my Grandma’s closet one day when my younger brother shut the door on me. I remember how quickly my young little mind translated the door being shut as I’M LIVING HERE FOREVER.

I didn’t, of course, live in that closet longer than a mere 10 minutes. But in the moment I was gripped with fear that what was really just a funny little adventure for my brother meant something far more drastic.

For years after, the idea of being enclosed in a small space terrified me. And I wouldn’t dream of stepping inside a closet because my little mind believed the door would always close. All because it had happened…you know, that one time.

And while I’d love to laugh this off with an “I’ve grown past this”, which holds truth, there’s more to the story. Because can still find my relationship with fear to be as consuming as it was that day in my childhood closet.

So today I’m coming out of the closet (see what I did there?) and sharing some of the ways I’ve been intentionally changing my relationship with fear. Because at the end of the day, why would we ever want to live a life ruled by fear?

And yet it happens. To most of us. Just tell me if any of this sounds familiar to you, too…

We hesitate to move, we resist change, decide against that bold step out into the unknown all because the F-word grips us with it’s manipulative whispers.

“You aren’t strong enough.”

“You aren’t talented enough.”

“You’ll do it WRONG.”

“People won’t want to hear what you have to say.”

Sometimes the whispers are born out of an experience we’ve had that leads us to believe THAT EVERY SIMILAR CIRCUMSTANCE WILL BE THE SAME. If I got hurt once trying this, why the hell would I do it again? If I couldn’t do it three years ago, why would I trust I could do it today?

In other moments we find ourselves justifying our way out of something because we believe the fear is there as some sort of indication that danger lies ahead. Our primal instinct, instead of questioned, is responded to with fight or flight. But fear told us to. So it’s okay, right?

But the beautiful truth I’m hoping to share with you and me is this: we can CHANGE our RELATIONSHIP with FEAR.

We can take the reigns back, release the haze of the fear clouds, and embrace truth. And today I’m gonna tell you about 3 REAL ways I’m shifting my conversation with fear. Because I believe it can help you, too!

Listen in…

 

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Do you feel like fear is something you need to change the conversation with in your own life? Let me know below! I’d love to cheer you on, friend.

Fear can be crippling or it can be the launching pad into where we're supposed to be. Into healing, releasing negativity, slaying that next project, raising a voice that needs to be heard. Listen in on this episode of The Wellness Crossing as I dive into 3 ways I'm learning to change my relationship with FEAR. Click to listen!

Fear can be crippling or it can propel us to where we're supposed to be. @kamilingren

Fear would like us to believe it's arrived because it's not safe to step outside of our comfort zone. It whispers "You aren't strong enough." It hold us back. I know I've felt the weight of fear more often than I'd care to admit, but I've been learning how to change my relationship with fear. And I want to help you do the same! Click to listen in to this episode of The Wellness Crossing.

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Feel like overwhelm has become your baseline? That used to be me, too. But I now have tools that help support me back to a state of calm. And I'm sharing them on the podcast today! Click to listen in :)

Reducing Overwhelm and Creating Calm: A Podcast Episode

I have a long history with overwhelm. Starting as a young child I remember my thoughts running wild with worry. As I grew, I went through life carrying a high level of responsibility and near-constant knots in my stomach.

And as often as those outside of me would recognize that I was “stressed” or “overwhelmed”, the most commonly-passed-on advice was the following:

“Don’t be stressed.”

Yeah…thanks. (But not really).

It really wasn’t until the last few years that I started pursuing what change could look like. I wondered what it could feel like to have tools that I reached for, and that actually…you know…worked?!

Flash forward to this year and I finally feel empowered with tools that have helped me engage with calm in moments where overwhelm used to be inevitable. And there’s something so wonderful about not feeling like I’m spiraling downward without a life raft!

It’s been through my recent exploration of neuroplasticity and the brain’s natural role in healing that I’ve recognized that calm doesn’t just happen. It’s created. And WE can create it.

Tune in to today’s episode of The Wellness Crossing, where I’m diving into the tools I use to support calm. These are the tools that help me bring my mind (and body) into a state I can feel both comfortable in and empowered by. And you can, too!

Related books I’ve read:

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The Honeymoon Effect by Bruce Lipton

Have you tried any of the tools mentioned on the podcast today? If you’re looking for a resource to help you incorporate some calm-supporting practices into your daily routine, you can download my free resource: Brain Vibes!

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Learn 6 tools I use to reduce feelings of overwhelm and bring my mind (and body) back to a state of calm in this episode of The Wellness Crossing Podcast. Click to listen in!In this episode, we're talking all about overwhelm and how we can bring our minds back to a state of calm. Tune in to hear about my journey through overwhelm and the tools I've learned that help me create more calm when I'm feeling stressed. Click to listen in!

For far too long I lived without tools to bring calm in moments of overwhelm. Be it symptoms, too much on my plate, or challenging relationships, I felt helpless when stress settled in. But this year I've been learning to embrace tools that actually help me create calm! And I believe you can, too. Click here to listen!

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Student in Self Care: How My Perspective is Changing | It's easy to lump self care off into the corner of pampering ourselves. But it's SO much more than that. But how to you prioritize self care in sickness? Here's a look at how I'm learning to find balance in Lyme disease.

Student in Self Care: How My Perspective is Changing

As my eyes opened I remembered what day it was. Today a friend was visiting. And so the pep talk began…

“Conserve your energy, Kami. We don’t need to crash before she gets here.”

This particular day it was one of the hard mornings. Each day when I wake up there’s a level of this hit-by-a-truck feeling, but today¬†the dial was turned up.

Some days I listen to my body well. Others I push it far beyond what I should. And this body? It gets cranky. In a big way. I’m then glued to the couch for hours or days, pain levels through the roof, and what little energy I had is gone. On those days, simply standing up from the couch can put me into tears.

Self care was hard for me long before I got sick. I was a busybody with a near-constant full plate. Sickness has merely highlighted the fact that I deeply struggle with resting, refilling, and fighting off the pressure to be constantly doing something. It’s challenged me to prioritize and appreciate the value of taking care of myself.

Emotionally. Spiritually. Physically.

And I’m still very much a student in this area.

This is a sponsored post for Self Care Catalysts. I have been compensated through the Chronic Illness Bloggers network. All opinions remain my own and I was in no way influenced by the company.

Self Care encompasses a variety of tasks and routine that help support whole body health. It takes time to find a balance, and when you're sick there are very clear struggles that present themselves. Here's how I'm learning to find balance!

Fighting chronic Lyme disease has pushed me to find tools for supporting myself that I can use even on my hardest days. But sometimes? I ignore even the most effective tools. Because self care doesn’t come easy for me. And I’m guessing it might not come easy for you either.

I’ve seen people translate or focus on self care as “pampering”, but it’s become so much more to me. Don’t get me wrong – there is a lot to be said for all the feel-goods that come with a fresh new do. To me, that can feel like a mini vacation and is definitely an aspect of self care!

But what I’ve been learning is that my self care has to involve a wide variety of tasks and outlets. To refill ALL¬†of me. Giving my body, mind and soul the healing, support and rejuvenation they need.

I have to make a conscious effort to pay attention to the messages they send me, know my limits, and do my best to listen. But when you’re sick? You better believe this has an extra layer of hard to it.

Physical Self Care

If I have a day where I am feeling even the tiniest amount of relief from pain and symptoms, I can read that message and respond with a loud “LET’S CONQUER THE WORLD.” So instead of always seeing it as a sign that I may have listened well the day before, I take it as an opportunity to get stuff done. And not always in proportion to my energy…

Good self care takes care of the WHOLE you. Body, mind, and soul. In chronic illness our bodies need it more than ever. Here are some of the ways I'm learning to care for myself as I fight disease.

Needless to say, this is one area that has been complicated to learn. Yet, I’ve accepted this truth: that my physical self care is multi-layered. And each layer is equally important.

There is my supplement and treatment schedule that I need to follow. Diet I need to stick to. A list of detox supplements and therapy to fit into my day. I need lots of rest. Even on the days I am feeling a little better.

My body is weak and working hard to fight off a constant attack. I have to remind myself of this even when I’m feeling “okay” (translation: “not as awful as usual, but still really sick”). I’m aiming to find a balance in this. Knowing when I can handle an extra push to enjoy something AND the aftermath, and when enough is enough.

Part of that looks like planning ahead. Such as having paleo-approved breakfasts ready in advance since my mornings are typically the hardest part of my day. Or setting alarms so I don’t miss a detox therapy or supplement dose. Anything that¬†will help set me up for success and take stress off of my day.

Emotional Support

Beyond the physical effects illness brings, our emotions also take a pretty big toll. There is loss and grief to wade through. We might become frustrated with how often we disappoint others. Facing disbelief from doctors and others also weighs heavily on us.

One of the most healing things for me in this area has been connecting with others who understand this life. There is always something soothing about talking to someone about what you’re experiencing and them “getting it” on a whole different level.

What I'm learning about balancing self care in chronic illness. The good, the hard, the journey.

It’s also been a huge comfort to have found family and friends who support me and respect my limitations. That alone helps keep my stress down, not having to fear saying no to those who won’t make me feel guilty.

Spiritual Support

I feel that my outlets for spiritual self care have the ability of spilling their benefits into the physical and emotional realms quite easily. Sitting on a bench near a local lake, feeling a gentle breeze and taking in the view and sounds of nature can be soothing to the whole of me.

There’s physical comfort in a cool breeze, emotional comfort in the beauty, and spiritual comfort found in soaking it all in.¬†This is now¬†one of the primary ways I’ve felt connected to God.

The times my husband takes me for a drive through the southern Oregon hills or I sit out on my front lawn surrounded by the beautiful scenery is healing, even if for a moment. Because it’s free of energy-zapping distractions and full of life and beauty. The creativity and colors that surround those moments is like balm for the soul.

Self Care in Chronic Illness: How to find a balance when you're sick.

Finding a Balance

As I’ve struggled my way through these last few years of my illness taking a turn for the worst, I’ve been slowly working to find balance. And every time I make a step closer to that, each moment of relief or emotional healing I experience, I embrace it. It take work to unlearn something that has become deeply ingrained in us. It doesn’t happen overnight.

So that morning my friend was coming I made a choice. I gave myself only what I knew I could handle before she came. I bypassed picking up before she came, and focused on tasks I could do at the couch. Made sure to take a break or two to lie down.

I don’t have it all together in this department. But can I share something? Those times when you really do give yourself what your body, mind or spirit is telling you it needs: it’s healing. Maybe not in the¬†“I’m cured” variety, but in a way of sustaining.

That’s what draws me back into the mindset of taking care of myself. Knowing that I’m giving myself just what it needs to survive.

And even, maybe, someday…to thrive.

 

What does your self care look like?

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Resting takes intention. Beyond the hours, days, weeks on the couch often required by chronic illness, we must intentionally carve out space and time for healing rest. For our body, soul, and mind.

The Importance of Pausing for Rest

I originally wrote this piece two years ago and stumbled upon it recently. It was a message I needed to hear again. Though my struggle with connecting with God lately is real and raw Рthe reminder to find a deeper state of resting is ringing true in my heart. So today I share again for us all.

What do you find yourself doing in the pauses of life?

The moments where there’s nothing on the calendar, a cancelled meeting, or perhaps a quiet hour alone…do you rest? Read? Cross¬†off a few things on your to-do list? Turn on the tv?

Not long ago, I had a couple days that were more full than usual with conversations and time with friends. My spirit was feeling lifted and thankful for those sweet moments. It was a cherished respite from the alone time that normally fills my days Рsomething that often is a necessity due to how miserable this disease can make me feel.

I purposefully left the rest of the week open, knowing my body would need the rest and recovery time. ¬†Back when I was working, on-the-go and we were having company most weeks, I think I would have embraced the moments as time slots. Space to fill with a few things I just “had to get done.”

I carried so much stress then and it was a struggle listening to my body (and my husband) telling me I needed to rest. It was easy to feel like my tendency to stay busy was justified. But I remember the consequences well.

Instead of filling that extra slot of time in your calendar with yet another errand or meeting, maybe it's time to carve in a time for rest. For Reflection. For calm.

In the many moments of resting and alone time I have, there are many areas of my life and character that feel strained by my physical limitations.

And this whole idea of “resting well” has been heavily on my mind and heart.

I can be forced to rest on the couch due to my health most days, but there’s an even deeper state of resting I think God may want to cultivate in my soul.

Our hearts and minds can be just as on-the-go as our bodies, if not more so. I can find my heart dwelling for too long on the things I can’t change and want to. The people I care for, and all of the things I think I need to do, but physically can’t.

I can busily occupy my thought space with worry, frustration and what ifs. But I know there is freedom when I can find rest and let go of the things I struggle so hard to hold on to.

While I do believe there is good found in being productive and having a schedule (major planner here), there is also so much good in unplugging and carving out quiet time for our soul, mind and bodies to rest.

To refocus on those things we value most. Those that truly are the most important. Quality time with loved ones, quiet time connecting with God, loving others well, rest for the soul, and taking care of my health need to be at the top of my list.

Above the rest of the noise that can constantly invade my thoughts, my dreams, my state of being.

Embracing rest in the midst of chronic illness | Living Grace

So today, in the busy hum of whatever our day holds, I pray we can carve out even a moment’s pause of rest. An opportunity to recognize a piece of beauty in the day and breathe a sigh of relief as we let go of whatever it is we’re holding onto so tightly.

This day is precious. We are here for a purpose. We’re loved.

May we consciously choose to live in the comforting, peace-giving shadow of our Father, for however long we can muscle our restless hearts into sitting still in that place.

Psalm 91:1 Рthose who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty.

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